Perhaps more subtle insidious than colorism, Alice Walker’s term for discrimination based on gradations of skin color, is the idea of favoring certain facial features over others. Colorism is easy to spot. Think of the most popular black or south asian film actors and actresses and you’ll see [...]
Or… Tripping over the Pedestal
Here in sunny beautiful vanilla Western PA, it’s easy to become attenuated to the connections one has to the motherland, notably to its people. Oh sure, I’ve got my Bengalis here and a few Indian friends left over from college but apas and bhaiyas, unkels and aunties don’t count, per [...]
It seems the height of irony that my trip to a shooting range would be with a liberal South Asian friend in uber-liberal San Francisco. I’ve always wanted to go to a shooting range but I’m not sure why I hadn’t back in Pittsburgh. Allegheny County has the highest per capita gun ownership rate in [...]
I read a post over at Girl You So Well Spoken detailing an apparent casting call for a Ciroc commercial seeking “light-skinned african americans”. Now that it’s been discovered and publicized, Ciroc is taking to denying, denying, denying having made such a request for their commercials but the larger point still remains.
Unfortunately, it’s not [...]
Among desi’s who don’t live in the motherland, there is sometimes a sort of pre-emptive hate-hate dynamic between strangers of the different sexes.
The reason for this subterfuge is simple – we don’t trust each other not to be ethnocentric. Often, one sex will think the other is only interested because they’re both brown. There [...]
This past weekend at my good friend Samira’s wedding, I was only one of 3 adult men who donned a traditional outfit whereas the rest of the men all wore Western suits. Every dawat, every formal deshi occasion, the men wear western clothing – pants, button-down shirts or sweater vests.
I’m not sure I understand [...]
“It’s different for you because you’re a guy.” I do not know how many times I have heard that statement. As a man, I cannot truly fathom the weight of the battles that South Asian women face in their efforts to uplift themselves. As such, it is difficult for me to question when it looks [...]